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Saturday
Nov142009

Hello Kitty's Bats & Cats Masquerade (OMG).

Royal/T is a crazy art gallery/restaurant/store in Culver City. They call it L.A.'s first cosplay café. The space has been hosting a series of Hello Kitty events and artwork for the past few weeks, and it peaked last night with a Hello Kitty '80s Goth party. 

My girlfriend Stepho and our friends Kimmy, Carré and Jhoana are obsessed with Hello Kitty and just about anything similarly cute and/or kitty-based, so we all got dressed up and headed to Culver City (my "costume" was typically creative: a black suit). We got there at 8:30 to find easily 300 people in a slow-moving line that wrapped around the whole building. In a particularly lucky turn of events (especially for Friday the 13th), my heroic friend Rob Vogel, whose beautiful girlfriend Amanda Jones was DJ'ing the event, called just as we were about to split to tell us that he could get us in. Station.

The inside of this Hello Kitty party was like a microscopic Comic-Con populated only by cute girls and cosplayers. Everybody there was 100% into Hello Kitty and Gothic Lolita or harajuku fashions, and some people managed to fuse it with the 1980s goth theme of the evening. There was some excellent Hello Kitty-based artwork on display but the people and their outfits were just as creative and fun to see. So much giggling, screaming and other outbursts of cuteness and intense glee -- it was really hard to be sardonic in there. I had an amazing time.

A couple of girls definitely stood out. They handed me a flyer/sticker that read, "Are you CUTE?! Or NAST?!" 

Something about that phrase just blew a hole in my head and I had to Tweet and txt and otherwise transmit those words to everybody I could think of. I learned these girls are called Princess Sparkle Dynamite and Magical Rainbow Explosion (for when they feel CUTE!) or Anal Stained Steph and Jelly Jizz Jeanie (for when they feel NAST!). I urge you to learn more about them and their insane lives at cuteornast.com.

I wish I had more and better pictures of the attendees but I felt weird just asking strangers if I could take their photos and put them on a blog they'd never read. But there was an event photographer on-site so hopefully we will see some more pix soon

Friday
Nov132009

Insomnia Mix I

Click here to download (125MB MP3)

Insomnia has been a big deal in my life for nearly fifteen years. I've seen doctors about it and I've taken medication for it, but it never really goes away.

Sometimes insomnia is just annoying. Other times it can be kind of dangerous. But there's a medium level of insomnia that I've found can be pretty cool. It's that state where you're dead tired but still wide awake and your brain has dried up in just such a way that certain things seem quite a lot more significant than perhaps they would otherwise. It's in this mode that I think insomniacs start to feel creative.

I've learned the Internet is home to quite a lot of us. I like the idea of a small community of friends and strangers who all suffer from the same problem, so, being a dedicated music fan, I occasionally share via Twitter and Facebook a download link to what I think is a special nighttime song, just for my fellow insomniacs. I delete the links when I wake up, just to make the whole thing a little more exclusive.

  1. Underworld: To Heal
  2. Goldfrapp: All Night Operator (Part 1)
  3. Freur: Doot-Doot
  4. M83: I Guess I'm Floating
  5. David Bowie: Crystal Japan
  6. IAMX: Missile
  7. Daft Punk: Veridis Quo
  8. Leftfield: Original
  9. Vangelis: Memories of Green
  10. Goldie: Inner City Life
  11. Underworld: Skym
  12. Nine Inch Nails: Leaving Hope
  13. Rob Dougan: Nothing at All
  14. Scissor Sisters: It Can't Come Quickly Enough
  15. Underworld: To Heal (And Restore Broken Bodies)

The songs I choose are ones I think insomniacs will respond to. They're often somber as melancholy is the typical experience for an insomniac, but sometimes they're more upbeat. Really, I try to reach out with my mind and psychically gauge the spirit of the Internet and the people I think might be awake and choose a song accordingly, like I'm DJ'ing somebody's bad mood without knowing who they are or what kind of music they like. 

That last sentence is the sort of thing you could only believe in - even for one second - if you've been awake too long.

I've made several dance mixes and DJ'd a few gigs over the years but never a quiet or ambient mix, so it seemed like a good idea to take the first batch of insomnia songs -- which are largely atmospheric and electronic but not strictly instrumental either -- and create a continuous mix for both insomniacs and regular humans to enjoy, and then do it again when I pile up some more songs on Twitter.

You can download this mix and save it for when you can't sleep, or you can listen to it now if you happen to be reading this in the middle of the night, or whatever. I hope you like it.

Download Insomnia Mix I here.Download my previous mix here.

Wednesday
Nov112009

Insomnia Mix I

Free download (125MB MP3)

Insomnia has been a big deal in my life for nearly fifteen years. I've seen doctors about it and I've taken medication for it, but it never really goes away.

Sometimes insomnia is just annoying. Other times it can be kind of dangerous. But there's a medium level of insomnia that I've found can be pretty cool. It's that state where you're dead tired but still wide awake and your brain has dried up in just such a way that certain things seem quite a lot more significant than perhaps they would otherwise. It's in this mode that I think insomniacs start to feel creative.

I've learned the Internet is home to quite a lot of us. I like the idea of a small community of friends and strangers who all suffer from the same problem, so I occasionally share via Twitter and Facebook a download link to what I think is a special nighttime song, just for my fellow insomniacs. I delete the links when I wake up, just to make the whole thing a little more exclusive.

The songs I choose are ones I think insomniacs will respond to. They're often somber as melancholy is the typical experience for an insomniac, but sometimes they're more upbeat. Really, I try to reach out with my mind and psychically gauge the spirit of the Internet and the people I think might be awake and choose a song accordingly, like I'm DJ'ing somebody's bad mood without knowing who they are or what kind of music they like. 

That last sentence is the sort of thing you could only believe in - even for one second - if you've been awake too long.

I've made several dance mixes and DJ'd a few gigs over the years but never a quiet or ambient mix, so it seemed like a good idea to take the first batch of insomnia songs -- which are largely atmospheric and electronic but not strictly instrumental either -- and create a continuous mix for both insomniacs and regular humans to enjoy, and then do it again when I pile up some more songs on Twitter.

You can download this mix and save it for when you can't sleep, or you can listen to it now if you happen to be reading this in the middle of the night, or whatever. I hope you like it.

  1. Underworld: To Heal
  2. Goldfrapp: All Night Operator (Part 1)
  3. Freur: Doot-Doot
  4. M83: I Guess I'm Floating
  5. David Bowie: Crystal Japan
  6. IAMX: Missile
  7. Daft Punk: Veridis Quo
  8. Leftfield: Original
  9. Vangelis: Memories of Green
  10. Goldie: Inner City Life
  11. Underworld: Skym
  12. Nine Inch Nails: Leaving Hope
  13. Rob Dougan: Nothing at All
  14. Scissor Sisters: It Can't Come Quickly Enough
  15. Underworld: To Heal (And Restore Broken Bodies)

Free download (125MB MP3)

Tuesday
Nov032009

Dating advice.

A guy I don’t know met some girl I don’t know at a show for some band I’ve never heard of and they hit it off and she gave him her email address. He proceeded to detail the interaction in the dating advice thread of a social message board owned by a friend of mine, using about a dozen paragraphs to explain every moment of the brief encounter.

It took this guy two emails to finally ask the girl out, and he did so in a really bad, wimpish way, and she of course blew him off. He’s presently considering schemes to get mutual friends to arrange for him and the girl to find themselves in the same place again, possibly at some kind of board games party.

I was moved to share some dating advice that I thought some of you might be interested in reading.

First, forget any third party-related schemes to run into this girl again. For all intents and purposes, you’ve blown it. Time to move on.

Second, your emails were too equivocal. When a girl gives you her contact info, it is explicitly because she wants you to ask her out. You didn’t properly do that until the second email, which demonstrates to her that you are weak and/or not really that interested.

Emails of this nature should be no more than three sentences. Sentence 1 (required): Nice meeting you. Sentence 2 (optional): Some kind of relevant joke. Sentence 3 (required): Do you want to go out with me?

Do not use words like “maybe” or “possibly” or “wondering” or any wishy-washy language like that. You’re an adult, be direct. If she writes back and says no, she’s a flake because why did she give you her email if she wasn’t interested? If she says she can’t make it on the day you want, it’s up to her to suggest an alternative. If she does not, you just write back and say “Okay well maybe I’ll see you around.” You do not chase.

Third, you are your own worst enemy here. The initial interaction you described is of the simplest, most casual of natures, yet it took you paragraphs to explain. After you hit “send”, you must stop thinking about it and get back to your business. It’s a fact that overthinking things is a terrible jinx, especially after the first encounter, and I have no doubt that this girl smelled that desperation all over you even through the internet.

Dating becomes a lot easier and less stressful when you just let yourself go. Think of it like walking waist-deep against a current and then just lifting your legs up and letting the water take you where it will. Sometimes you will bang your head against a rock but on the whole it’s a less aggravating exercise.

Along those lines, your report back to this forum should have been: “Met a cute girl at a show. We chatted a bit and she asked me to email her, so I did and I’m waiting to hear back.”

Good luck next time.

Sunday
Nov012009

Relaxing day at home. (Can you see the spy?)


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